My brother says that I’m broken because I don’t react to some certain situations in what he would define as a “normal” way. In his opinion, because I lived with a crazy person I tend to filter actions through the lens of having to deal with a crazy person that scared the crap out of me with every breath or movement.
Quite frankly, that’s possible. I do know that I have a very low tolerance level for certain actions etc. I definitely have a super-low tolerance for stupid people. I’m not sure a dislike for stupid people is tied to formerly living with a crazy person, but whatever.
One thing that does make me very uncomfortable is when a girlfriend’s spouse is the one that contacts me. I’m single, and most of my friends are married. In many cases, I’ve known both spouses for an equal amount of time. However, when I’m friends with the wife and barely know or speak to the husband, it drives me bonkers and quite frankly gives me the heebie-jeebies when only her husband contacts me….not too mention it feels ridiculously inappropriate.
Especially when it’s “hey my wife wants to hang out.” Well then, “Hey, tell your wife to talk to me herself.” The wife has my number, my email, my facebook, and my twitter feed is not blocked. So why is the husband the one that always emails me? It’s not like he’s trying to ask me out – he really is wanting me to hang out with his wife. But I’m an action kind of person. The idea that your wife wants to hang out would be so much more believable if your wife was the one contacting me.
Is it wrong to think that I’m worth not having to go through an intermediary to contact me? Is it wrong that I want to talk to my friends and not their husbands? If you care so much about me and want to know how I’m doing, ASK ME YOURSELF.
This isn’t the first time I’ve been in this situation…maybe I am broken – I mean, it does keep happening. But quite frankly, I think I’m just fine and other people need to consider common sense and appropriate social customs.
Ummm yeah…. that’s totally inappropriate. Unless he’s planning some surprise for his wife and needs your help, she should be the one contacting you. Totally think that’s weird.